Helen Bill

East Riding Life Coach Helen Thorburn is a busy mum of two. Each month she will write about topics that all mums face, take two minutes for yourself to read on…






I was scrolling (yes, I know, have cut it right down- but all in the name of research) and I found this quote:


Eat like you love yourself

Move like you love yourself

Speak like you love yourself

Act like you love yourself


Historically, as good old Brits, we often aren’t too keen on this whole loving yourself business. Maybe it’s the choice of word ‘love’ that makes us feel uncomfortable. It’s all a bit touchy feely. In our culture, we like to be seen to put others before ourselves. Very noble. But, although supporting others is great, it should not be at the cost of neglecting yourself. As parents, we will at some point, have come face to face with the outcome of constantly putting our own needs to the bottom of the pile. And it’s not good- or pretty!


Spending a little time to reflect on how you can look after yourself, body and mind, and putting some of those habits into practice, can only have a positive outcome for yourself and those around you. And it doesn’t necessarily have to cost a lot of money or take up too much time.


So whether it’s more ‘love’, ‘respect’ or ‘care’ that you could do with, why do it and how?


Showing yourself respect and kindness is not selfish. In fact it’s the complete opposite. Our children need to see that we are compassionate, not only to others, but also to ourselves- even though this doesn’t always feel easy. We are their role model and our behaviour will affect the way they see the world around them – and themselves. As we hope they will value, respect and use their strengths, so should we. It’s also important to forgive ourselves when we make mistakes as we do for others.


That’s what loving yourself means to me. And it’s ok.


Would your life look any different if you ate, moved, spoke and acted as though you loved yourself?


How I would eat differently


How I would move differently    



How I would speak differently

How I would act differently   



Are there any other aspects of your life you would change to show yourself more kindness?


What can you do to incorporate this into your life now?


Start by doing one of them today.


Helen Thorburn has worked in education for the past 15 years both as a teacher and in an advisory capacity. Having experienced the positive impact of coaching on young people’s lives through her work in inclusion, she has progressed to coaching adults. She is currently working towards her Level 2 & 3 Diplomas in Life Coaching and delivered her first well being retreat, in conjunction with Angela Stone Yoga instructor, this September at The Orange Tree in Rosedale. Look out for regular articles, when Helen will provide East Riding Mums with advice and tips on how to cope with modern family life.


Copyright 2016 Helen Thorburn

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